11/25/2024

Take Time to Process Negative Feedback Before Responding

If you're offended by a comment your boss makes, pause for 24 hours before responding

You work hard and are proud of what you do. You think you are a great performer. You stay late and push your teams to complete the work faster, on time and without errors. You’ve been going all year pushing and grinding, then you go in for your monthly review. You sit down with your manager; instead of praising your work, they say something that makes you feel three inches tall.

Has this ever happened to you? You probably felt deflated, angry, sad and surprised. You may have wondered: How did this happen? I delivered on what we agreed. Why doesn't my boss see it? Whether your manager's comment was intentionally mean or not, you cannot forget it—even weeks later. If you know you should just let the remark pass, but you're still replaying it, here’s how you can move forward.

Are You Taking the Critique Too Personally?

While you have the right to your feelings, recognize that you might be extra sensitive about the work being critiqued, given your closeness to the project. Ask yourself: Am I taking this too personally?

Please select this link to read the complete article from Fast Company.